At the Well’s post was beautiful today. I thought I would take just a small piece of it and add what my thoughts are towards my princesses with these:
And here is an incomplete list of the practical application of these principles:
- Smile at your child when he wakes up in the morning, welcome him into the new day.
I try and greet my girls with a smile and a nice “Good Morning” when I see them. My oldest will even call me on it if I miss this greeting.. “MOM… did you forget something?? ” I love that!
- Avoid “gripe groups” of other mothers who sit around and complain and run their children down.
Oh boy, I learned this early on. I DO NOT like to sit around other women who do nothing but complain about their children. I was convicted a long time ago that when I share with other women about my princesses it can actually be considered GOSSIP!! I need to be careful what I share with other women, and only desire to be around those who will raise me up or hold me accountable to be a better mother.
- Exclaim in a cheerful tone, “Hey–did you know that I like you a lot?”–often.
We have an on going joke around here. When one of my girls ask me for something and I say yes, I look at them and say ‘ THANKS MOM … ” and they’ll finish it like this.. ” Because your the BEST MOM in the WHOLE World”. LOL. I love doing this with them, but I need to remember to praise and tell them how WONDERFUL they are too.
- Tell the child stories of his birth/adoption and how you fell in love with him.
Home videos are great for this!! We love to put ours in and watch them when they were little. I like to add special things that they may not remember.
- Allow your child to interrupt you when you are sewing or online or cooking, without conveying frustration.
Oh boy. I am a big failure at this one. I can be an AWFUL eye roller in times of frustrations, but God , in His funny ways, has now allowed my girls to call me out on it. They are my little accountability angels.. and I do appreciate that.
- Look into his eyes when he is talking to you.
We talk a lot!! We have A LOT of couch time, just talking and chatting. I started that a long time ago when they were little. Doing devotions and just talking before we start the day gives us time to share things we may just let pass in a busy day.
- Sit on the floor and play with him.
Having teenagers means we are kind of past this stage, but I try to join in with them with things they each enjoy. Whether it’s watching old movies or playing Wii games, we try to find things we can do together.
- When you take him to the park, go on the slide and the swings with him.
Again, a little past this stage, but we do take them to a different kind of park often.. Disney World. LOL. At first I thought it was a little much getting passes to Disney, but now that I look back, all the times we’ve been there have built TONS of memories for my girls. I truly appreciate it now.
- Love his father–the man that he came from, even if that father is no longer part of your lives.
I’m very blessed to be married to my princesses father. They see us being goofy and such together, but I do need to pay close attention as to how I react to him during misunderstandings or times of trials. I don’t hide times of struggles from my girls because I don’t want them walking into marriage thinking it will all be PERFECT. But I do try and share with them that I’m not a perfect wife, but I rely on God to continually shape me in this area.
- Let your arms and your heart always be open to him.
We do a lot of hugging around here and I wouldn’t have it any other way!! My princesses will even still let us hold their hands as we walk around places. Not a lot, but they do enjoy it sometimes.
- Don’t postpone discipline–be consistent.
This is an area I didn’t struggle with too much. But I probably may have been to ‘on the ball’ when it came to discipline. My girls are very beautiful, well mannered girls, but even in theses amazing teen years.. we still have our ‘issues’. LOL
- Be willing to be passionately involved–correcting him and reasoning with him.
Having teenagers has taught me how to sit and be their friend. NOT their BEST FRIEND, because I still am their mother. But we have found a good balance where they can share openly with us, but also respect and honor us when it comes to disagreements or discipline.
- Beware of using distractions such as media, etc. that are attempts to replace his need for your attention.
We are a media family, but I think we use it in a well balanced way. Sometimes we are all spread in different rooms doing different things, but all in all, we enjoy watching movies and playing video games together.. not apart.